Physical and mental health is always a natural manifestation of spiritual health. In this context , I specify spiritualism as our ability to recognize our soul’s needs and respond to them, to the best of our ability. Developing an inner relationship with our metaphysical self, has a broad impact on our relationship with everything else in this world. You may ask, why? That is because what is truly positive for this world wide community as a whole, is highly fulfilling to our soul also. Many people have been falsely led to believe that our contentment must come at the expense of others. This is incorrect, and the confusedness takes place when we are unable to differentiate between superficial happiness and deep, lasting happiness. The latter is a rare, gem in this world, and many people are discombobulated on how to recognize and cultivate it. Cultivating soul satisfaction is the focal point of my mind body spirit work, because once attained, physical and mental health take place effortlessly.
Developing a loving inner attitude towards all people and all circumstances in life, helps us to quickly see what areas of our life are sustaining to our soul, and which areas are not. When we indorse our loving inner position through both big and little activities and changes in life, we vote for deep inner fulfullment in our future. Being loving is a bit tricky though. The primary point of this article is to describe how being loving, is not the same thing as being decent and polite . This is a lesson that I have been getting to know the difficult way repeatedly. I have long been a “people pleaser” and now realise how that is detrimental. I believe that my experiences can help others sail towards their own metaphysical well being in the most efficient way.
Being nice and polite is a mark of metaphysical weakness, whereas being loving is always an reflection of spiritual potency. As a reminder, spirituality is specified here, as that which is nourishing to the soul. When living in a spiritually strong state of being, an individual feels content and snug in their skin. They have a loving inner posture. If a difference in notions arise , they will openly acknowledge the battle, without a need to swing the other’s notions, and without fearfulness of losing a friendship or a simple and easy relationship . They have all they need in the moment, and hence there is no need to impress others, or seek kudos. This person loves to get the care of others and approval from them, but they let it come naturally as compared to trying to get it.
With this agreement in mind, lets elucidate some of the ways in which being a people pleaser is very different then being loving :.
1. People pleasing can be used to manipulate others. We do it to get what we want from someone. In this way, we behave decently to extract a favour, approval or for some other predetermined reason. This is very different from being authentically nice, without anticipations.
2. Niceness can be used to avoid battles with someone. For example, we may use niceness to maintain a friendship with someone, when we don’t actually feel genuinely nice. This is harmful to all involved. We are lying to ourselves and to others. We are putting our need for kudos, above our innermost verity. We are being superficial and phony. Even if the other person does not know our true intentions, our shortage of seriousness has an impact on the caliber of the relationship , subliminally.
3. Politeness can be used as a way to look better than someone else. We may act polite when we don’t really feel that way, so as to “one up” the other individual in a disagreement.
All of these grounds for being nice , are at odds with with our true metaphysical nature and hence come from a place of weakness. They are all false and used with a hidden agenda . Engaging in them is harmful to ourselves, and our surroundings. Allowing this conduct to go uncurbed, grows the seeds for sickness and unhappiness. As our spiritual positivity grows, we may eventually find that there is no valid reason to compromise ourselves with such behaviour, even if it may cost us our business or our acquaintance. If it does, then neither of them truly respected us. It is better for everyone involved to let go of a superficial relationship , in favor of honesty. This cultivates a positive spiritual state of being which then creates lasting benefits in the wellness of our intellect and body, and is contagious to those around us, often in an unexpressed way. Learn more about how to cultivate truly spiritual, or God love in your life.